It is said:
“Sow a thought, reap an action,
Sow and action, reap a habit
Sow a habit, reap a character
Sow a character, reap a destiny.”
Creation all starts with a thought linked to our most consistent emotions. Think about it, each time we notice our habitual emotional state, we discover that there are rituals connected to producing these emotional outcomes. Who knew? The upshot is that we then find that that the rituals that surround our behavior and emotions cause us to behave predictably.
Let’s take a look at five negative emotions we probably are familiar with; frustration, anger, overwhelm, fear, disappointment as some fairly common emotions. Next, look at how you produce that emotion. What is the exact recipe you use to actually produce that emotion? Did you know that there IS a recipe?
What do you need to do with our body and thoughts in order to create frustration, for example. What do you do with your thoughts? What do you focus on? How do you move your body? Are your movements fast or slow? Are you calm or agitated? How long does it take you to go through the ritual that produces feelings of frustration?
Of course, your ritual may be different from others, but I imagine that you have one, but I know I wasn’t aware of how I produced my own negative feelings.
“Most people fail in life because they major in minor things.”
~ Tony Robbins
Tony has us go through five emotions that we feel most often and the write the specific recipe for how we attain it. The exercise helped me to become more aware of what I’ve been doing in my own head.
The next portion we talked about was whether or not we’d ever experienced peace of mind. If so, how did we achieve that? What is our recipe for joy? Same questions as above: How do we move our bodies? Is there high or low energy? What is our focus? How long does it last and how often can we tap into that emotion?
The above exercises led next to examining and understanding procrastination. Most people are familiar with this emotional state – some more than others. I know that’s been true in my life from time to time.
When procrastination is looked at as another ritual, it can help to distance us from some of the negative outcomes this emotion can bring.
Tony has some specific ways on how to over come it and I found these tips really helpful:
1). Find out how your procrastination ritual is created.
2). If you don’t change this, what will be the ultimate price you’ll pay?
3). If you’d have already gotten procrastination under control, how would your life be better? How much more joy would you have?
4). Develop the habit of saying, “I want to do such and such” instead of “I have to do such and such” You’ll probably find that this is a key way to reduce the resistance to doing necessary tasks.
5). Develop the habit of moving your body in ways to interrupt the procrastination pattern. Take a quick walk, (not just to the refrigerator), but outside. Stretch, do some floor exercises, drink some water, examine your goals.
All these tips have to do with taking control and making different choices. When I do these exercises, my results are more in line with what I’m wanting in the first place, and I find that it is taking far less energy to create those outcomes.
As an assignment:
1). Revisit the 5 emotions that you picked for the warm-up exercise above. Then, develop and write down a pattern interrupt for each one.
2). Review your positive emotions and discover how you can trigger them more often and when in your life you’d be willing to put yourself in a geat state on an ongoing basis.
3). Write down what you do to get yourself in the ritual of procrastination and how you can break out of it.
Discovering and understanding the rituals we all have is a huge step in conditioning ourselves for higher levels of success. What are your rituals? Are you noticing changes with studying these principles? I’d like to hear your thoughts.